The feminist side of me can't shake the feeling that if we were a bunch of men who signed up on this site and stated that I find it distracting when he waves during the emotional peak of a song and hangs on the mic stand too much, that there would be "Oooo-ing" and "Aw-ing" over the wisdom of such observations and how DC should be aware of how men in the audience feel about his performances. But as fan-girly women, there is a sense that the proper role of the women here should be one of nurturance and anything outside of that is mean or unsupportive. And like many a good woman, some will use guilt to manipulate others back to their culturally preferred role.