My Hero

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I have watched six seasons of American Idol and can honestly say that no other contestant on the show has ever been able to connect with me in the way that David Cook has. Not only did he blow me away with many amazing performances but he also impressed me with his warm and generous heart. Simon tried to saddle him with the smug label early on but I wasn't buying it. David always acknowledged the band at the end of his performances and he acknowledged the talent of his fellow contestants. He wore that orange band in support of a little girl with cancer whom he had never even met and he never once mentioned it during the course of the show. These were not the actions of a smug man. David would also not allow American Idol to exploit his family's situation. His refusal to discuss his brother Adam's medical condition in an attempt to keep that part of his life private earned my respect and admiration. I saw In David a performer whose confidence in his abilities shone through on stage, a man of great personal integrity, a man who loved his family and friends.

We all have our personal favorites from David's performances while on the show. I loved "The World I Know" as a touching and intimate end to David's Idol journey. I also loved "Billie Jean' for David's ability to completely mesmerize me with that amazing performance. "First time Ever I Saw Your Face", "Hello", and "All I Really Need Is You" were other personal favorites. I really liked most of the rest as well. But the performance I liked the best, the one that touched me the most, wasn't performed on the show at all. It was "My Hero" which David first performed in Blue Springs during his homecoming visit. When he introduced the song that day he didn't say that it was for his brother Adam but I knew immediately that it was. David loves his brother and admires him for the strength he has shown in facing his illness. Adam is his hero. And there is something truly beautiful in that. David’s heartfelt performance of that song touched and moved me so much because I also have a hero in my family. He is 18 years old. He is my son. And his name is also Adam.

My Adam has a congenital heart defect. It is something that can be treated but never really healed. He had surgery as a baby and has had a fairly normal childhood but lately the scar tissue in his heart is causing complications. So this has been a stressful year for us. He has outgrown the Children’s Hospital where he has been seen since birth and we’ve been in a state of transition as we move his care to an Adult CHD clinic at another hospital. It seems we were always waiting. Waiting for records to be transferred, waiting for insurance pre-approvals, waiting for appointments for tests, waiting for results, and then repeating the whole process over again. And through it all I am just amazed at how well my son has handled everything. At the age of 18 he will have to have a pacemaker to prevent his heart from slowing to dangerously low levels while he sleeps. And he will need medication to help prevent his heart from racing dangerously fast when he’s active. When the doctor told Adam he needed surgery for the pacemaker he said “OK, lets do it. When can I come in.” He is so brave. I try to be outwardly strong and calm about the whole thing but inside I am a mess.

I think that all of us has have heroes in our lives. Ordinary people, loved ones who are facing some kind of adversity and handle it with courage and grace. My son Adam is my hero. Tomorrow he will have his surgery; please wish him well.

There goes my hero
Watch him as he goes
There goes my hero
He’s ordinary

Comments for this Blog post

You and your family will be in my prayers. Godspeed.

All good thoughts and prayers for you & your amazing hero. Incredible how the ostensibly "weaker" ones can be so strong and good, and serve to make everyone around them stronger and more compassionate. I'm sure you are a hero to him.

A world full of big blessings and little miracles, until we hear from you again.

{{{{{{{{{G-Marie and Adam}}}}}}}} Hope everything works out for you two.

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Adam and your whole family will be in my prayers.

Sending you, your family and especially your Adam love, light, blessings and good thoughts.

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We'll all be thinking of your family -- big hugs to you and your son and I hope so hard that everything turns out okay. We'll keep your spot warm for ya here and make sure you have plenty to catch up on when you get back.

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summerdaze - michelle - sashimigirl - shellybean79 - wn#2482 - etc - etc

Adam sounds like such a positive, resilient guy, and that obviously speaks volumes about the way you raised him. Hang in there during this scary time, and know that there are people here who have you and your family in our thoughts.

... my hopes ... and my thanks for sharing. *HUGS*

I'm not good with words, so I don't know what to say except... *HUGS*

May God bless Adam, you and your family.

Best thoughts to your son, you and your family. Keep strong.

I tried not to cry as I read this, but I got all soggy (a la you know who). I hope Adam's surgery goes well and he has a speedy recovery.

Anne
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montiac712
aka squeeemish on TWOP / annearchy on LJ
DCFTMFW

What a beautiful post about David and your son, Adam. We're here for you when you get back!

Cyber-hugs,
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BootStar2 a/k/a Trish Rosenthall

I read your blog post, Marie, and was struck by your son's courage and pragmatism. Across the miles, my family will hold you in our thoughts and prayers as your family goes through this surgery and subsequent recovery. Adam sounds like a marvelous young man, and he's in good hands. Just remember, as others have said, to remember to nurture yourself through this time. Big hugs and prayers from Nova Scotia.

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Virtual hugs, G-Marie. Best to you and your son.

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kaydeecee

I often read blogs/comments from various sites but would always end up doing nothing about how I felt, you know, like pretend I didn't care until I read your story. Now, for the second time, I'm wondering if someday someone will come up to me and say "You raised a good son". And I tell you, you did. I know how hard it is for you to look strong when deep inside you're crumbling down. I also have a heart condition diagnosed in 2006, one reason for me to eventually decide to stop working for a while. I was at the height of my career then but I opted to give it up for my health. Everything's going well for me now and my 9-month old son and I pray that it will be the same for you and Adam. Stay strong and have faith. God bless...

G-Marie, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your son. I admire you and your son's strength and courage. Kids can be amazing that way. They are often so much better than we adults are at accepting the reality of a situation and dealing with it. My best wishes to your son for a speedy recovery from his surgery.

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CathyM-K

It's easy when it's done being hard. (Therapy/ Axium)

G-Marie, thank you for sharing this and, in turn, letting us send positive thoughts and prayers your way, and Adam's way..

My thoughts and prayers go out to you an Adam as well. Everything will be ok, stay strong. Thank you for sharing your story, we'll always be here to offer support and diversion!

I know that as a mother we all want to prevent our children from ever hurting but sometimes it's just not possible. Your Adam sounds very brave and believe me when I tell you that he has already come to terms with whatever will happen next and he has prepared himself for it. I can tell by the way he said "Let's do it". I had a congenital heart defect that I had no symptoms for until I was 22 years old. After a couple of years of being in and out of the hospital, I was told about an experimental heart surgery that only 2 surgeons in this country could perform at the time. One was in New Jersey and one was in Michigan. They were both in my operating room. I was told that I might live up to another 3 years if I had the procedure done. That was as much as they could speculate because that was how long they had been doing it. I was 25 years old. My daughter was 9 months old at the time and I was willing to try anything not to leave her. My own mother was with me through everything and agonized over what I was going through even though I kept telling her that I was ready for it. This coming Tuesday September 23rd will be 17 years since my surgery. I went from not being expected to see 28 to living to be 42. My daughter is a Senior in high school and will be 18 in January. I was able to see her grow up because I took a chance. Anything is possible. Keep believing. God bless you and Adam.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. Every parent worries about their children, even if it's just the little things. I can't imagine what it must be like to have the giant worries that you must have. Your strength shines through and you have passed it on to your son. I'll be thinking of you and Adam today. Best wishes and I look forward to a good update from you.

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cinmc on TWOP, GSCookie everywhere else WN# 1349

G-Marie, you don't know me, but I lurk in the TWoP thread, which led me here to your blog to find out what was happening in your life. Then I read your beautiful entry, and well, firstly let me just congratulate you on raising such a courageous son. I am a mom as well, of 8-year-old and 2-year-old girls, and I cannot begin to imagine the turmoil you must be going through. I will pray that your son's pacemaker surgery is successful. God bless you and your whole family.

Nicole

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David Cook: My Drug and My Anti-Drug.

G-Marie, your blog brought tears to my eyes. As the mother of two grown sons who've been through ups and downs, I know how you feel. Adam is a hero indeed and so are you, in my book. What a brave young man, and I know he gets some of that courage from you and your support and love for him. Hoping that all goes well tomorrow, and Adam has a fast recovery and gets back to his life in no time. Holding you up in my thoughts and prayers.

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Wishing you and Adam well. I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts today.

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Jai_S (aka InDreams, LettingGo)

Thank you for sharing the news of your son and his courage in the face of adversity. It is through personal struggles that one becomes strong, and it sounds like your son is a very strong young man I also wanted to let you know that during this time of waiting and wondering that I am sending you my support, words of encouragement and prayers. I'll be waiting for word that all is well.

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Wordnerd3046 (aka: cookiewordnerd, wordnerdarchie, arlysv,member#119)

G-Marie,

Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Reading your openhearted blog made me cry. I am continually amazed at those who can overcome illnesses like your family has. Spending copious amounts of time in and around the hospital and the stress of waiting and wondering must be almost impossible to bear. I think I would have an ulcer or two. David (and the pants thread) is a good distraction - stress, wait, and wonder about something that 's not even close to being as important.

And let's say a small thanks for our current medical technology - 100 years ago, neither Adam would have survived.
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I wanted to add my best wishes for you and your son, it's not easy to watch your children go through such things. With all the love he gets from you and the rest of his family will be a great comfort, and it probably is why he handles it all so well.

Be strong, and know all of our prayers are with you. You know we'll be here, keep us posted. The best to you and your family.

Best wishes for Adam for tomorrow, and for you. I'm glad he has such a positive attitude towards this, it will definitely help.

Sending Adam (and you) lots of positive vibes for a healthy outcome! Your love for your son comes shining through!

--AheadofStraight
My banned name I miss the most and which lasted the least amt of time: YoFace

I have two grown children and I have been very lucky with no serious illnesses or injuries through the years. I know you would trade places with your son in a heartbeat if you could as would most of us. I've felt that way just on life disappointments. Your son has a lot of courage and I wish you the best. Please let us know as soon as possible how it turns out. We'll be waiting.

One of my favorite quotes is what Mark Twain said "Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it. " Your son knows this.

G-Marie your blog is beautiful. I admire you, your family and son Adam for your strength. As a mother, I cannot imagine the fortitude it takes to manage such a long term health crisis of a child. Your beautiful boy is a Hero, and you G-Marie, are one also. Long cyber hugs and good vibz are with you & Adam today and in the upcoming recovery period. Hope you can check in with us TWOPer Refugees for some laughter and camaraderie.

G-marie, I want to add my thoughts and prayers to eveyone else's. Going through something like this can tear a family apart or make them unshakably strong. I can tell that your family is one of the strong ones.

Please let us know that everything has gone well with Adam. We're all pulling for you.

Diana (ncc1991 on TWoP)

G-Marie -- What a beautiful story. I will be thinking of your family and keeping you in my prayers!!

My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your Adam until we hear from you again.

AngelaTarantula (TWOP old); Song of Roland (TWOP now); FallForever(MJs)

Hi

Your son is a brave, brave young man and you are a strong and courageous mother. I wish your family the greatest luck. Thank you for sharing part of your life with us.

Your post is inspiring. I am the father of four and have not had anything quite that serious with my children. I am in awe of your commitment as a parent, your continued patience as you do all that waiting, and your courage. My prayers are with you through all of it. I agree with your comments on David too. I have a close relative with pancreatic cancer who is My Hero and,after having dug into David's musical past, I discovered Axium and a song called AC in which he deals with his feelings toward the cancer and Adam and the whole situation. It was amazing how a song written by someone so young could be so appropriate for my situation. Got to go, but I wish you the best with your Adam's situation. Keep finding those little escapes, like David, for yourself and treat yourself well.
God Bless